Tempting Fate

5/12/21 Wednesday

When my son does thing like this it drives me a little crazy. I instantly go into dad mode and remind him of how slippery wet rocks can be, how he could hurt himself, get soaked, all the lame things I can think of to say that just end up making me sound old.

After-the-rain.org / Tempting fate
“Be Careful!!!”

But opening yourself up to risk, stepping outside of your comfort zone, and surrendering to the pull of the universe is a powerful thing, and who am I to criticize? The world is teaching me a valuable lesson, that the unpredictable nature of life isn’t something to protect against, but perhaps something to accept and even embrace.

My younger days may have been filled with physical risk, but now it’s more psychological and emotional. Less deadly, more powerful. The big push these days is letting go of things that have crept into the image of my identity, cluttering not just my closet but my mind and spirit. The road bike, the sprinter van, the beautiful house in the country, the image of myself as a surfer, mountaineer, husband. Letting go of objects that were becoming my identity has set me free. Opening my heart and thoughts up to the world hasn’t made me vulnerable, it’s made me stronger. Sometimes playing it safe is the biggest risk of all.


I think there is a buyer for the boat. This is a big mind f@#! for me, and will put my big ideas above to the test. More to follow..

Author: Rainey

after-the-rain.org What started out as chicken scratch notes on the back pages of my boat’s logbook has now grown into a blog. These words and images help me cope with a loved one struggling with mental illness, and they help guide me through divorce, and the process of moving on. Thanks for reading along as I learn about life the hard way, do the best I can for my son in my new role as a single dad, and find weird similarities between restoring an old blue water sailboat and putting the pieces of my own life back together. Come check out my story and feel free to say hi!

3 thoughts on “Tempting Fate”

  1. There’s a balance between productive risk-taking and recklessness. Discovering the tipping point between the two is a risk in itself, and a big part of developing a healthy lifestyle. I have a whole category for my “risk” writes.

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    1. Here’s where I draw the line. When my son eats shredded cheese on the couch, that’s risky. Peanut butter, that’s downright risky.
      Are the risk writes on your blog?

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